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Why did our band break up? We were really starting to gel. I don’t understand what happened. If the answer to this question was that the musical styles and ideals do not jive then you are one lucky dude. Because usually that is not the answer. If your musical styles do not jive and you see no future, then breaking up was the logical choice. But sometimes, and usually most of the times, musical style is not the culprit.
You have found each other at a club listening to a good band. You know some of the members of the band and they introduce you to someone who plays a killer guitar. You are a bass player, you know a drummer and voila, you have the start of a band. You get together, play and soon add a keyboard and it just goes from there. You spend hours upon hours getting the equipment right, the sound right, the vocals right, everything is falling into place and then….it just disappears. Why? I believe that the start of the process was never really addressed as it should have been. And the specific part that was missing, that caused the demise of the group, the part that was never even discussed were the goals, dreams and aspirations of the other members.
The goals of each individual have to be in line with the entire group. Most musicians just want to play music. And if you are good enough to play on stage with the guys you are with then a common bond occurs in which there is a false sense of security. However, it does not take a lifetime for the real motives behind the music to come forward. Why would you not want to bring those motives into the forefront before wasting all of the time and effort? Why would you not want to know if you are all on the same page business and career wise instead of just music wise? It is puzzling.